That stopped the messages. Girls as young as 13 send topless and naked photographs on their mobile phones without hesitation, regarding it as a form of flirtation. While middle-class parents might be horrified, evidence suggests that socio-demographics do not play any role in dictating who engages in the practice. With a son aged eight and a daughter who has just turned 11, James, whose most recent book is Love Bomb: And besides, I have absolute confidence that my children will be moderate and sensible. Instead, they are having a blast in this fantastic global space.
I would argue that they are more vulnerable there than if they were hanging out on the street. Lucy Russell, director of campaigns at the Young Minds charity, stresses the importance of children learning how to experience the world and build up emotional resilience by dealing with problematic situations. Parents are kidding themselves if they think they can control social media. The relationship with your children should be one of trust and honesty — but with a little well-intentioned spying, via a circuitous route. So, if to snoop or not to snoop is the question, the answer would appear to be: But not everyone is onboard with this strange new world of constant monitoring.
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As long as I'm paying the bill I will check my children's phones and I don't care if they like it or not. Either I check the phone or they don't have one. How about the girl who jumped to her death after being bullied over text and social media? How about the parents who find out their kid is using because of an overdose and a trip to the hospital? What about the kids planning to shoot up their school? Check their book bags. No teen on here is going to like it. I feel this is something I need to cover.
My parents are the sweetest parents one could come across BUT they are the kind who feel that they need to know what's going on in my life. You, as an adult or a child, probably came across the same kind of question: Are they spying on me? Just as you adults can practice self-control, we can too. Unless you're my cousin or a rare few.
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Recently, she was found watching a K drama at night. It's ok, it's fine, it isn't too severe. They've suddenly gotten interested in my habits, favourite shows and friends. It's wrong to PRY on them, but it isn't to ask and be a little creepy once in a while.
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As a matter of a fact, we're closer than before! I found our few similar interests and introduced them to my life. They found nothing wrong with my interests and were back to normal. Maybe that's what you should do. If they are being suspicious with their phone, just ask. They'll come and tell you eventually. The truth always comes out in the end anyways. The question is incorrect.
Is it OK for me to read my kids' text messages on their phones?
If you pay the phone bill with your name on it and they eat your food, live in your house, drive your vehicles, sleep in your bed, use your electricity, drink or use your water, use your money to go places or buy things, watch your tv with your service provider, play in your yard, participate in the extracurricular activities at school you pay for, you get the idea. All of this with the full-time job you or maybe even both parents work to provide all these things and so much more.
You as a parent if this is your situation should not even be asking such a question. Kids at school know that the text book or tablets they use are school property and are subject to review for content. Yes, even your lunch break can be subject to review. Doing this is being a concerned parent especially with how the world is today. It has nothing to do with trust or treating anyone with disrespect.
It is a privilege, not a right. I know most of the comments on this post are from young people. If you think it is unfair, move out, get a job, completely sever your financial ties with your parents and join the real adult world and suddenly a few read text messages don't seem so bad do they. You are absolutely right!
Can my parents go online and read my text messages for att?
I love every word you wrote, if only those children responding could understand Too many parents don't monitor or even set expectations for phones, it will eventually backfire when they are expected to comply in the adult world. No, unless your child is particularly defiant and known for participating in illegal activities or sneaking out, do them a favor and do not read their texts.
Please, we are begging you to show some trust in us and we are begging you to treat us like we are human and not some inferior species. My parents not only read my messages, but go through my social media, photos, and search history. I am 17 years old and, while I am expected to act like an adult and forced to care for my five siblings whenever they need me to, I am treated like a toddler and constantly subjected to them going through my phone and personal belongings.
So parents, please remember that you were a young person once and consider how you would feel if your parents had no trust in you for no good reason. My patience actually bought something and they can legit read my texts and look at my calls through their phone. No, going through a child's messages is a complete invasion of privacy. My mother has just read snapchat conversations between me and my bestfriend, where we both joke around, send each other photos and videos we find funny.
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We also swear during our conversations, something I never do anywhere else. Obviously, the way I talk to my friends, and the way I talk to my parents or my teachers is completely different. I was also talking to my best friend about how I lied to my parents about going to her house, when instead I was going to see my psychologist.
I have just been diagnosed with depression, anxiety and an eating disorder. I have previously tried to talk to my parents about my mental health, but neither of them cared, blaming my unhappiness on just 'being a spoilt teenager,' so I thought seeking professional help was the only way to solve anything.
My mum is really mad at me right now, and has confiscated my phone and blocked my friend on snapchat. So going through your children's phone, is a huge no! Maybe if the adult population actually listened to us, they'd realise we aren't just rebellious, or spoilt, or bratty.
We don't do things to annoy or upset our parents for the sake of it.